Their “vetting” process sucked too. I just asked for an invite and they gave one with no questions asked. I could easily just start spamming troll stuff and they would ban me but still. Quality moderation and an approval process can accomplish everything tildes wants to do without stifling its ability to add users and variety of discussion.
Yeah this is the issue I have. I wouldn’t even be on instagram if it my friends weren’t on it. Pixelfed has a much tougher road to snatch users than a place like Lemmy or even Mastodon for that reason. If everyone I know hopped over with me (which let’s be real, I would never be able to get everyone to do that because they would run into the same issue with their own friend networks) then i’d gladly move over.