

I’d say they are making an attempt. They are researching and making that effort. The first time I met someone who was trans, I just didn’t understand it at all. They let me ask a ton of questions. My opinion has changed over the years because of that.
Good luck on your journey.
There’s a lot to consider. I for the most part want quality of life. I turned down 100k+ to work from home, have nore days off, and work where I appreciate them and they appreciate me.
From there make sure you don’t stagnate. If you don’t evolve your career you won’t offer as relevant of skills.
Places want long history. And if you love doing something, nothing says that better than a consistent job history of that.
Don’t let drama command your career path. I’m sure your job is in demand enough that you could get a job somewhere else too. Don’t rule out making changes by standing up for yourself.
I know this doesn’t exactly answer your question. But, I hope it helps you narrow down your decisions.