• Vilian@lemmy.ca
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    11 months ago

    you missed their flirting because you didn’t liked them enough, or they didin’t like you enough to say to you, or flirt until you take the hint

    source: my girlfriend has social anxiety and is shy asf, but she really showed it, and i’m a dumbass

    • MrsEaves@kbin.social
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      11 months ago

      Lady with social anxiety here to confirm. Flirting is useless. Every time I’ve just given up and asked the dude to date after being extremely forward for a while and they’re always shocked 🤷🏼‍♀️ Once we get past that, it’s great.

    • halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com
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      11 months ago

      Nah, I’ve certainly had a few reflective moments where I realized my missed opportunities. The reality is, unless you’re really confident and self-possessed, it’s hard to put yourself out there. So I can understand why these guys didn’t just spell it out for me, cause they likely weren’t sure I was into them. And on my end, I always struggled with low self-esteem, so I just assumed that these attractive guys weren’t actually into me and were just being nice/good friends.

      Anyways, I’m glad your girlfriend is an exception to the rule.