Nobody’s going to want to be around you if you’re volatile and hurtful. And “I can’t help it” is a thin excuse. These are things you absolutely could control, you just have to try.

You sound young. Get control of yourself and develop some empathy. And while you’re at it, do something about your internalized misogyny. These two passages ought to create some cognitive dissonance for you:

Women also piss me off more than men do, so I hang out more with them because I feel like they get me and aren’t as bitchy.

I think women should be the best versions of themselves :) [I believe this is why society is so hard on women as a whole]

What beautiful, bittersweet memories. Thank you for sharing them.

Yorkshire Gold, two sugars, splash of evaporated milk.

No, of course it’s not healthy. I’m just saying it’s not violent.

In a marriage/committed partnership, I think most people would consider a fight to be an argument with raised voices and some ill feeling. I really don’t think most people consider shouting to be violent. Upsetting, maybe, but violent?

In a high cost-of-living area, it absolutely can be. And lots of tech jobs are in HCOL areas.

Probably not. Bearing = birthing, rearing = raising.

What the fuck.

Looks like Boris Johnson.

They’d have to prove there was a plan.

Hey anything’s better than the metal ones

Ugh I really hated Space Babies

I think you replied to the wrong comment?

Haha we were all obnoxious young punks at one time. Probably why I love Authority Song so much.

I’m glad you like the rec!

He’s always had a big noggin.

Yeah they’re both in their early to mid 70s now. Both had music out in the '80s & '90s, and both embraced a blue collar vibe, albeit in different ways.

My favorite Mellencamp song is Authority Song

It’s Mellencamp

It’s where the partnership is mostly focused on the kids, leaving very little time for the parents to connect. I see this more and more with how heavily scheduled kids are now. Parents have to schlep them from school to sports to playdates to music lessons, etc… it seems so overwhelming. And people don’t seem to use babysitters anymore so it’s rare the parents get adult time together to go out on a date, listen to live music, go dancing, see a movie, etc - just be people in love together and focus on each other. I think time together without the kids is vital to keeping a connection with your partner. Otherwise everything is parenting and logistical planning. You need balance.

I’ve heard “quarterlife crisis” used for this before. I think a quarterlife crisis is different in some key ways from a midlife crisis, and it makes some sense to distinguish between the two. I think more than comparison to others’ achievements, these crises have malaise/discontent at their cores. By the time you reach a midlife crisis, it can be extremely hard to make changes that will reinvigorate you: a lot of the time you’re pretty stuck - in that boring job, with that big mortgage, in that “Parents, Inc.” marriage, with those needy kids. When you’re going through a quarterlife crisis, I think it’s that post-college “is this all there is?” doldrums. But at that age there are fewer variables and change might be tough, but still easier because there are fewer people relying on you.

Just based on my observations, anyway.

In DS9, Kira Nerys refers to herself as a terrorist all the time.